Friday Jun 20, 2025
ESSAY June 2025 - Жить - значит постоянно прощаться - Это всё сделал Бог
ESSAY Magazine (An International Journal of Sexaholics Anonymous)
The mission of ESSAY is to serve as a source of information, experience, strength and hope to sexaholics, both inside and outside the rooms of Sexaholics Anonymous. Our vision is to provide a high-quality “meeting in print” that gathers together members from around the world. It can serve as a portable “extra meeting” especially for loners and for members who don’t have access to many meetings. In addition, Essay serves as an outreach tool to carry the message to those who have not yet found SA. We strive to include a mix of stories and shares from a wide variety of members, including men and women, prisoners, and international members. In addition, ESSAY provides Fellowship announcements and information on subjects such as new meetings, Fellowship events, and our service structure. We hope that all of the articles we publish will offer useful information and provide experience, strength, and hope to all who suffer from the disease of sexaholism. Fellowship actvities such as international conventions, regional events and local events appear in the Calendar section. Each issue has a theme and various sections to share sexaholic stories and practical tools. In addition to letters and group news, ESSAY offers short, edited articles written by members about recovery and our solution. The Practical Recovery Tools section features members sharing on the topic, “Exactly how I did it.” Submissions may also include meditations, poetry, and humor. ESSAY is guided by the principles of the Twelve Steps, Twelve Traditions and Twelve Concepts. Each issue contains the following statement:
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Friday Jun 20, 2025
Friday Jun 20, 2025
Наследие выздоровления глазами тех, кому она помогла
Работа по Шагам: Сначала мы обсудили Шаги. А затем, Сильвия спросила: «Ты читаешь Белую книгу или уже прочитала “Двенадцать на Двенадцать”?» Это было до того, как была написана книга "Шаги в действии". Я прочитала Белую книгу, чтобы понять суть Шагов, и прочитала “Двенадцать на Двенадцать”, чтобы работать по Шагам.После этого я написала о том, как я работала по этому конкретному Шагу, и прочитала то, что я ей написала. Наконец, Сильвия дала обратную связь, чтобы определить, нужно ли мне углубляться в Шаг. Когда я была встревожена, она спросила, над каким Шагом мне следует работать. Она сказала: «Тебе нужно молиться и писать». - Пег В., Огайо, США
Saturday Jun 14, 2025
Saturday Jun 14, 2025
Sylvia participated in the early history of Sexaholics Anonymous (SA) and was a primary figure in the development of SA’s current service structure.
Jesse L. Brings SA to Oklahoma City: Sylvia joined SA in 1983. At that time, it was popular to be in a 12 Step program. She went to Al-Anon, Overeaters Anonymous, and many open AA meetings. She heard them talk about alcohol addiction and said, “I have the same problem with sex.”
Saturday Jun 14, 2025
Saturday Jun 14, 2025
In my memory, the expression “good grief” was a common expletive of the cartoon characters in Peanuts. For much of my life, I used “good grief” to express astonishment, dismay, and frustration, never considering the deeper truth hidden within the euphemism. Before I entered the SA program (10/21/1998), I lived with an accumulation of frozen grief. Only after a couple of journeys through the steps did I begin to understand and embrace the benefits of grieving. I realized that journeying through grief was healing and good for me.
Saturday Jun 14, 2025
Saturday Jun 14, 2025
by Sylvia J. (at six years SA sober) with the original 1989 title
Reprinted in Member Stories 2007, pages 120-123 with the title “The Only Way I Knew”
When I was a little girl, about five years old, I remember sitting on my grandfather’s lap and combing his hair. It gave me such happy, good feelings. My grandfather died when I was seven. From that time on, I had trouble in school. I couldn’t concentrate, I would daydream, and I had headaches. I was a lonely child after I lost that special relationship. I didn’t know how to get love like that from anyone else. So, I comforted myself in my fantasies where I was a fairy princess. My Prince Charming would come and carry me off. We would live in the land of happiness forever doing wonderful deeds and sharing our love.
Saturday Jun 14, 2025
Saturday Jun 14, 2025
I started this 12 Step program from the bottom after committing adultery. What was left was me saying, “I know a solution. I'm going to commit suicide, and then I'll blame everybody else. That it’s all their fault.”
Saturday Jun 14, 2025
Saturday Jun 14, 2025
A Legacy of Recovery through the Eyes of Those She Helped
Working the Steps: First, we discussed the Steps. Second, Sylvia asked, “Are you reading the White Book or have you read the Twelve and Twelve?” This was before Step Into Action was written. I read the White Book to get the essence of the Steps and read the Twelve and Twelve to work the Steps. Third, I wrote about how I worked that particular Step and read what I wrote to her. Lastly, Sylvia gave feedback to determine whether or not I needed to go into more depth on the Step. When I was disturbed, she asked what Step I should be working on. She said, “You need to pray and write.” -Peg V., Ohio, USA
Saturday Jun 14, 2025
Saturday Jun 14, 2025
I am very lucky to have an experienced therapist who is a man my age and who has also personally worked the 12 Steps for his own addiction issues; he thoroughly supports 12 Step programs. I have found this kind of outside professional help to be a very positive complement to my recovery in SA.
Saturday Jun 14, 2025
Saturday Jun 14, 2025
While every ESSAY edition is special, carefully thought out, and filled with SA recovery, we would like to describe this edition as unique. The Fellowship has had many losses in the past year. Some experienced loss in recovery for the first time. Can the Twelve Steps and the Fellowship of SA aid those grieving?