ESSAY Magazine (An International Journal of Sexaholics Anonymous)

The wives of these sex addicts spoke up to voice the damage that was done to them, but the complaints were not directed to the sexaholics. 
I started recovery by going to a famous treatment center for sex addiction. The program included “Family Day”. The “highlight” of Family Day was a process called disclosure, where I describe the wrongs I had done to my family, and the family gets to describe how my actions impacted them.

A Journal of 90 Meetings in 90 Days.
Luc D. traveled to Nashville in 2009 to attend 90 in-person meetings in 90 days in a desperate attempt to save his life after a relapse binge. He kept a journal during this time and shared it with other members. Below and in the following editions, ESSAY will be sharing parts of his journal.

Wisdom has taught her that enthusiasm in early recovery did not always translate into appropriate sharing. 
After being sober for a few months, I decided to join a faith community. They held a community day every month, which I decided to participate in. 
During my first community day, I got into a conversation with a couple, and we hit it off right away. They invited me over for dinner, and during that dinner, we got to know each other better.

Enthusiasm for recovery and a newfound willingness to be honest without careful consideration before sharing can lead to an awkward situation. 
In early recovery, I was so thrilled about having found a solution for my problem that I wanted to share it with everyone. My wife already knew about my addiction because she caught me many times. I told a friend who is a coach and a psychologist. It was in addition to things we had already spoken about. A couple of weeks later, my wife and I met at her place, and she had a visitor who was also a coach and psychologist.

While caution is suggested to the newcomer in the beginning of the White Book, similar caution can be found in abundance on Step Nine throughout our literature. 
The caution in the White Book is often directed to new members in our Program. However, several SA-approved readings refer to cautions applicable to the amends process in Step Nine.

She remembers a historical event by reflecting on where she has been and where she is today as a result of this Program. 
On September 11, 2021, many commercials commemorated a famous attack. One commercial’s words impacted me deeply: “Where were you on 09/11/2001 when the world changed?”

He realized that by only praying for God’s will, God revealed his will and answered his past prayers for sobriety. 
All my life, I thought prayer meant asking God for something I wanted—peace, healing, sobriety. If I said the right words, in the right way, at the right time, maybe God would say yes. Looking back, I see how my prayers were self-centered—about me trying to manage God.

He discovered that continuing to take Steps Six and Seven, he became more willing to have God remove his defects.  
My first time working through the 12 Steps of SA, my thinking was all sequential. When I came to Steps Six and Seven, I thought, “I will knock these Steps out with the help of my sponsor and get on with Eight and Nine!” Years later, I’m still working Steps Six and Seven. Hello? In the ensuing years in Program, I’ve gained some wisdom and patience. Imagine trying to solve all my issues in weeks!