ESSAY Magazine (An International Journal of Sexaholics Anonymous)

He learned the true meaning of what it means to be a winner. 
I’ve never loved that saying because I was a chronic slipper. It sounds like there are winners and losers in recovery. But that’s not how our Fellowship works. A more honest version might be: “Stick with the sober members.” In SA, there are only two kinds of people—those who are sober today, and those who are not yet sober. Both belong here. 

He realized that a business conversation that expresses interest in a woman without intentions to follow up is lust.
I'm a silent partner with a drug and alcohol recovery clinic in Atlanta. (For anonymity purposes—I'm not from Atlanta and don't live there). Last May, I flew down for a grand opening for our newly relocated facility. Grand openings are an opportunity for all the people in the industry to come and see what the new location is like, to see each other again, and have some fun chatting with each other.

In Step One, I admitted that I was powerless over lust and that my life was unmanageable.This is absolutely true, but my sponsor reminds me that I have to work my SA program.
So, I do these things:
When I see an interesting person (which is to say, when I objectify a person for lust’s sake), I have to pray and immediately work my program.
When I call my check-in partner every week to report my behavior and challenges, I work…
When I call my study partner every week to study and discuss 12 Step literature, I work…
When I go to several SA meetings every week even though I feel busy, I work…
When I do service for my home group or an SA Committee, I work…
When I am hit with a lust temptation, even a small one, and pray to my Higher Power and work the Steps on it, I work…

This member finds hope by not leaving out the possibility of one day becoming a saint.
This morning in my meeting, we read from Chapter 5 of Alcoholics Anonymous, which is occasionally referred to in AA meetings as “the preamble”. It was a reminder to me of my group’s pre-COVID days, our face-to-face meetings, which have now become entirely too infrequent.

Celebrating the Steps and recovering together in mixed meetings brought life to India’s first-ever convention. 
From 2020 onward, online meetings gave SA India a strong push, resulting in steady growth in both members and meetings.

He felt called to start a meeting in another language to amend the damage caused in the addiction.
What started as an intuition in prayer and meditation one day at church, continued with a desire to make amends to those of another language and culture whom I objectified and wronged by starting a Spanish-speaking SA meeting in person. This desire has evolved over the past two years. Though Spanish is not my primary language, I have experience as a trusted servant in my faith tradition that was international in service. I am disposed to use one of the gifts of serving in another language among our SA fellowship.

 
חיבור לכוח עליון באמצעות חיים בתוך הפתרון, 12 הצעדים, מעניקה לה את היכולת לתת שירות למכורים אחרים, כולל אלו שבמבנה השירות
כמעט כל חיי פעלתי בדרכים שידעתי שאינן נכונות. אמרתי דברים שפגעו בי והזיקו לאחרים. מערכות יחסים יפות נהרסו. נראה היה שאני לא מסוגלת לעזור לעצמי. פעלתי מתוך דחף של טירוף לקבל תשומת לב מגברים, ולהשיג את אותו רגש שנראה כמו חיבור אבל השאיר אותי ריקה לחלוטין. חיי הונעו על‑ידי כוח בתוכי שלא יכולתי לשלוט בו. שום דבר שאמרתי או עשיתי לא עצר אותי. הבטחתי כל הבטחה אפשרית והמשכתי להיות חולה יותר ויותר

 
פיכחון חיובי לא היה אפשרי עבורי בלי צעדים חיוביים וחיבור אמיתי עם אחרים
הגעתי לתוכנית הזו בחיפוש אחר “פיכחון שלילי”. הכוונה שלי הייתה להפסיק את השימוש בחיי. כמו בכל הדברים עד אז, חשבתי שאוכל לעשות זאת לבד. אם אקרא קצת ספרות, אעשה מדיטציה על כל מה שעשיתי ואבקש מחילה - בינגו, אהיה "מתוקן"